Yesterday was my younger brother’s birthday. We’re all pretty good about keeping in touch,
and making birthday calls within 24 hours of the day. This year I sent him a few things from our
mutual childhood. A few photos,
newspaper clippings from the tornado were in, a tattered New Testament Bible
our Mother had when she was in the Navy during WWII. Going through the memories, in the context of
his birthday brought back the memory of how I found out a new baby was coming.
I was five years old and in kindergarten, definitely too
young to have noticed anything about Mama’s increasing weight or fashion
statements. One morning when I got up
and went downstairs for breakfast, I saw a bunch of little clothes and things
on the spare bed. I started looking at
them and Mama came in and explained that they were gifts she had gotten the
night before from friends because there was going to be a new baby coming to
our house.
I was really excited.
The little clothes and blankets were so soft and pretty, I remember
looking and touching them and wondering about what it would be like to have a
baby wearing and using all those wonderful things.
“Does Daddy know about this?” I remember asking. “No, I don’t think he does," she
answered.
“Then can I tell him?”
I waited expectantly for her reply.
“Yes, I think that would be nice.” It was what I wanted to hear. “But you have to go to school first.”
I remember nothing about that day in school, but the moment
I got home I ran into the spare bedroom and looked at each of the little gifts
separately. I then arranged them as
neatly as I could all around the edges of the bed so they looked like a store
display. I patted and fluffed and
straightened until I felt they were perfect.
Then I closed the doors to the bedroom and waited for Daddy to come
home.
I knew it was nearly time, because I could smell the coffee
perking on the stove. They always sat
down for coffee the minute he got home, but this time, I knew he had to
wait. I met him at the door and grabbed
his hand and told him I had a surprise for him.
We got to the bedroom and I made him close his
eyes, opened the door and led him in.
When he was standing at the foot of the bed with the wonderful baby
things so carefully arranged by my toddler fingers, I said, "Open your eyes!" As he looked in wonder at the
display I shouted, “We’re going to have a baby!”
He did a double take of surprise and then just beamed at
me. He must have said something to the
effect that it was wonderful, and I could see that he was excited that a baby was
coming. I led him back to the kitchen
table so he and Mama could have their coffee, and I went back to play with the
little clothes some more.
Neither one of them ever said anything to let me know that I
actually wasn’t the one to break the good news about the baby to Daddy. Not ever.
Eventually I realized that of course he had known, but I have always
loved them both a little more for giving me those moments of pride and
excitement, and playing along so completely.
What’s Zen got to do with it? This experience is about love, and the special
moments that help define us and those we love.
Even after so many years, I can still feel that joy and excitement, and
be glad that “we” had that baby.
Happy Birthday, "little" brother!